Trying to convince someone to be a follower of Christ is estimable. Listening to the individual can help yet there is still a more comprehensive approach.
I’ve been a diligent evangelist for years. Over this time I’ve evolved to a place of care for the individual and speaking in context; simply informing of the facts.
I have friends outside the church whom I’ve spoken to about Christ. The result is a closer relationship and they actually enjoy the conversation.
I center over what is agreed upon in the relationship and work in this context. Here are a few generic examples.
A guy moves into my house for sundry reasons. I provide the basics (housing and food), I help him outline a path for his future and assist him in achieving it. I provide accountability and assistance in life foundations and an ear to hear his concerns.
If a conversation arises for input; I give it and it is Biblical. The individual goes to a small group meeting is not too religious, sharing concerns and victories. We finish with prayer for one another. He goes to church on Sunday…the meeting is full of worship without creative and novel spiritual antics…the message in concrete and challenging…
Most often the result is a desire to be baptized….I think it is because the message and the messenger are consistent…active love and tangible care!
Others outside the church see and hear of our love for each other and for those in need. In this context I handle the relationship much the same as the former. They will talk to me and many times reject other voices…some times they thank me and invite more of the conversation in future meetings…
I do not use “sanctified” language and if the context is right I may use some strategic culturally un- approved bits to spice it up. I come off as knowledgeable, respectable, trustworthy, sincere, and passionate…none of which are a turn off.
In contrast to the preachy, forceful, know it all and do nothing person it comes off pretty well. Typical evangelism will have a hell-of-a-time reaching these same people, who by the way, aren’t as resistant to Christ as they are the messenger.