Yet, I see something else. Avoiding pain is pretty natural. I think one of the reasons we feel it. Normally it is an indicator that we are doing something wrong.
Still, I see something else. Sometimes it is cowardice to avoid pain. We are pulled by honor and courage and righteousness but shrink back. The fear of pain drives us to a prenatal quilt.
However, I see something better.
Better is trust and relationship. Darkness proves to be the great test of love. Empty; alone with a distant, dim illusory ray. Waiting; time to think and doubt. But love holds you in this enviable state.
Infinite love developed in a womb of pain.
Come Lord Jesus!